"I look at you now and it’s like staring at a stranger. I listen to you speak and it sounds like the words are meant for someone else. And I touch you, for the last time, but I don’t feel anything anymore. Who are you? And what have you done to the person I love?"
"Not a single night passes me without being reminded by all the wonderful memories you and I used to share. I remember it vividly, yet no matter how perfect or clear the memories are, all I know is I could never relive it. Never. And now the world has gone forward and I have no other choice but to go with it. The world has forgotten, and soon, I will too. All the moments, the people, the feelings; every single thing the world has witnessed would soon be surrendered to oblivion."
The art of dealing with pain.
Of the billions and millions of people roaming around this planet that we call Earth, there would be a lot of people who would try to tear you apart. They will break you and crush you and torment you for all they care. You will get hurt, and you will feel pain- a great amount of pain from people who may or may not matter that much. Selfish people exist, and yes, we do not live in a perfect world.
If it hasn’t sunk in to you yet or you just want to get a repeated dose of reality, then here: WE ARE ALL DOOMED TO LIVE A LIFE OF NEVER ENDING TRIALS AND DEVASTATING CHANGES BECAUSE THE WORLD IS IMPERFECT AND IT’S DEFINITELY NOT FAIR. The world is filled with cruel people. Crueler than you could ever imagine. And in the billions existing, only a thousand would comprise the ones who want to bring you down.
But do you really think they’re important? Do you think every single person of the one thousand people would really be able to inflict that much pain to you? And do you really think you would carry that same amount of pain forever?
I don’t think so. Because in that one thousand, only a hundred or may be a fewer would matter. And only a few would last for a reasonable amount of time.
Pain is inevitable. It’s all around us. Just like what I’ve said, the world is an imperfect place. But then again, we get to choose who inflicts the greatest pain in our lives. If a stranger calls you ugly, you will not bother that much. But if someone special tells you that, for sure, you will feel heartbroken. Same scenario, different people, different degree of pain. Because if someone really does matter, then we would really be affected by what they say or do.
Truth betold: We have a say on who can hurt us and who would hurt us more.
The world is an imperfect place filled with imperfect people creating imperfect scenarios just to give someone an imperfect life. And that’s enough reason for you to fall apart. But then we are the masters of our life. And we get to have a say on who matters and who doesn’t. If those imperfect people are causing you unreasonable pain, then leave them.
Someone who recently got his heart broken asked me, “Until when will I feel this pain, when will i stop crying?”
My answer was simple: Until you tell yourself to suck it up and carry on.
You can never stop people from hurting you. And you can never stop yourself from feeling the pain that you’re supposed to feel. But you can always choose who would hurt you and until when you would feel hurt. Because we are the masters of our lives, and we have the power to choose the things that would count.
Despite the world’s imperfections, there would still be those who are happy inhabiting it. Despite the many trials one encounters, there would still be those who would rise up to be as glorious and triumphant. Yes, You can argue that they might be happy people by nature or they were born strong and destined to be great.
But I say, they have just mastered the art of dealing with pain.
"I know that choosing the word “beautiful” to describe you would be a complete understatement, and I know that saying the words “I Love You” might not even sound as much, and I know that you have probably heard these words from other people with other plans, but one thing’s for sure, I have a penchant for loving and appreciating you. And I will never get tired of appreciating your beauty, and I will never get tired of showering you with love because in the course of my life, I realized that my joy revolves around loving a person like you."
I don’t believe in.
Here are the things, mostly cliche, that I don’t believe in and that has left me wondering why they even exist.
But if there’s something I believe in, it would be LOVE. Genuine love. I don’t believe in the things stated above because for me, those are just add-ons. They do not give meaning to love. They do not give justice to love. It just complicates the true essence of love. Love is supposed to be a great thing yet people throw it away like it’s nothing. Love in its simplest form can be found in the simple actions one makes. It does not require grand romantic gestures. It does not require a formula to make it work. It does not require standards or physical abilities. It only requires a sincere heart. A heart that will do, not a heart that will say. Because we love with actions, not with words. A lot of people forget that. They attach different things to love- dates, standards, flowers, promises, chocolates etc. but love is not felt with the day you spend or the things you receive, It is felt with the sincerity in your actions.
Some people are wondering why it’s so hard for me to open my heart to someone new. I guess, you can find the answers here. I am not opening my heart to anyone right now because no one has shown me true love yet. If I would love again, I want it to be someone who has understood me and my idea of love. Because I love love. And I don’t want anyone to mess it up for me.